In light of my 22 years on this earth, I wanted to share 22 things I have learnt during 22 years of meeting people and experiences.
In my 22 years, I have done lots, seen many things and met lots of people and for this, I am immensely grateful. In life, we are always changing and evolving. We are always influenced and we are influencing. This happens with people we have known for long periods or only briefly. Sometimes we can be influenced by people who we’ve never met. It happens when we, not only meet people but find ourselves in new environments.
As humans, we change. We change because of our environment and because of situations, where we learn valuable lessons. Some good and not so good. We have encounters with meeting people that can change us, but we can also be the reason someone else changes. We never know how an encounter will change us, or the other people involved. Sometimes we can have a moment with someone that leaves us smiling for the rest of our lives and we walk through life with nothing but fond memories and have learnt or been taught wonderful things about life. Other times we can leave hurt and vulnerable. Sadly, leaving with an important lesson that teaches us cruel things about the world.
You never know what will happen with anything in life. Life is one big mystery for you to figure out. I find it best to look for silver linings, a hidden meaning, message aka lesson. I think that is how I learnt so many of my lessons so far, including the 22 in this post. Of course, there are so many more than 22, but these are my favourite and many of them are my most important ones.
Here we go;
1. Always be humble
2. Bees are important and must be looked after
3. Home is not a place, but a feeling
4. Family is not created by blood but by experience and love
5. Self-worth is determined by one-self and not dictated by someone else
6. Travel helps with sanity
7. Changing is part of self-evolution and there is nothing wrong with it
8. Mental health does not discriminate
9. People aren’t always who they make out to be
10. You can feel lonely in a room full of people
11. The world needs more compassion
12. My success should not be downplayed
13. There is never an excuse for someone’s actions
14. Silence should be questioned
15. Friendship is not about quantity but quality
16. It is none of my business what someone else thinks of me
17. People change and people we love can hurt us
18. Standing up for yourself is more important than any kind of relationship
19. Appreciate the things you have and where you come from because nothing will be better.
20. “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt” is the most bullshit saying
21. The family we have will always be there, whether you connected by a family tree or your chosen family. If they aren’t, then they aren’t your family, regardless of how you became family.
22. A moment is a moment. They don’t last long. Take in the good ones and don’t focus so much on the terrible ones because they to count as moment and won’t stay long. Just hold on.
Bonus, for the day of my birth; “If we do not honour our past, we lose our future. If we destroy our roots, we cannot grow. ” A quote that resonated with me by Friedensreich Hundertwasser on my trip to Vienna.
I listed my lessons; the lesson that I have learnt on my journey and they will not be the same as yours. Although they may be the same in meaning they are not the same because of the experience attached. Each lesson, moment and experience is uniques to everyone’s story. Leaning is not only what happens at school, but learning happens all the time and is the most important thing we can do in life.
Each year another birthday comes around and in that year we would have learnt hundreds of things, through our own experiences or through someone else’s. The most important thing we can do for ourselves is to hold the great moments and remember the details that go along with it and with the not so great ones, hold onto what comes after it. Always remember the lesson. Find a meaning for it, a silver lining or a hidden message, aka the lesson in it all. Reflect on the feelings, how far you’ve come and look at what happened to everyone around because of it and your relationship. Importantly think about how you go on from this.